Are You The Cycle Breaker In Your Family?

Be The Cycle Breaker, Not The Cycle Maker!

Every family has a lineage of unhealed trauma. When left unaddressed by the person initially affected, it doesn’t die with that person when they take their last breath. In fact, it was already passed on to their children long before that.

When a child is born, it automatically takes on the energetic pattern of that trauma. It’s an energetic transference, not an inherited DNA deformity that can’t be fixed. When you couple that with the parent’s wounded capacity to parent, then the initial trauma becomes exacerbated and reinforced to their child on an even deeper level to what they initially experienced for themselves. The child’s environment always strengthening that energetic pattern of trauma.   

This all happens on a subconscious level for the most part. The parent is completely unaware that their trauma is affecting the way they parent their child because they are so afraid of acknowledging their trauma in the first place. The parent cannot see that their trauma is enhancing damaging behaviours towards their own children.

When that child grows up and has their own offspring, that deepened energetic trauma then gets energetically transferred to their child. That wounded parent becomes even more incapacitated (than their parent) in their ability to parent in a healthy way, and so the cycle continues. Unfortunately, this cycle can continue for generation, after generation. Hence, the term ‘generational trauma’. The more generations it gets passed down to, the more severe the affects of the trauma are, and the harder it is to heal and break free from.

The tendency to ignore and suppress the trauma becomes learned behaviour from the environment of the child’s upbringing. It’s also reinforced by the lack of education in our societal structures around emotional intelligence. You could liken it to everyone walking around in a trance, completely oblivious to why their lives are so painful, unfulfilling, and for some, extremely destructive.

This is where you will often see a long line of family members with alcohol or drug addiction. It’s got nothing to do with inheriting an ‘addictive’ personality, and everything to do with inheriting the energy of unhealed emotional trauma. And of course, inheriting poor coping skills like avoidance, suppressing, and the need to numb the pain with substances. In fact, society in general, reinforces these poor coping mechanisms. Especially the medical and mental health industry. “What’s that, you’re depressed? Here, pop a pill” to ‘feel’ better and SUPPRESS the symptoms of your trauma. Even talking to a psychologist isn’t going to be able to access those deeper levels of trauma, because the patient isn’t consciously aware of where the core of the trauma originally stems from. Talking about your trauma, although helpful to a degree, it isn’t going to release the energetics of that generational trauma. With this in mind, it’s no wonder that we have a whole world full of miserable and dysfunctional people. And, its important to note here that EVERYONE has generational trauma, it’s just some have it on a more severe level than others.

I know when we look at it like this, it can all seem a bit bleak. However, the exciting thing here is that anyone can break the cycle of this generational trauma. In fact, it’s imperative that you do. Someone in the family lineage has to be brave enough to go within and face the shadow of their trauma. When we are brave enough to go within and face our own personal trauma, we in turn, are facing and transmuting the energetic transference of the trauma for all past and future generations within that lineage! Just imagine what a gift that would be for your children, and your children’s children…

I know from personal experience how scary that can be. The fear of it is what keeps the cycle perpetuating throughout the generations. However, we must be honest and look at how destructive that trauma has been for ourselves, our parents, our grandparents, and beyond. Do you really want that pain and destruction to be the theme of your children, and in turn, your grandchildren’s lives? Don’t you want better for them than what you had? And don’t you want to be the one who sets them, and all future generations free?

In the world of information being at our fingertips through the internet, you have absolutely no excuse, other than fear, not to go on your own journey of self-discovery of healing that which needs healing. Everyone’s journey is different, and everyone will resonate with different types of healing modalities. But that’s the beauty of the journey, discovering what does and doesn’t work for you.

Read books, listen to podcasts, try energetic healings, any type of out-of -the-box modalities. If you’re not sure where to start, then hire someone like myself (a coach, a mentor, etc.) who can guide you along the way.

It is a scary journey in the beginning, but I promise you, it is the only journey that will set you, your children, and your children’s children free! Be the cycle breaker, not the cycle maker!

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